When we mix the emptiness along with some of the pain of life—then voila! Life just doesn’t seem quite worth the effort. Honestly, many replacements abound. The lack can be remedied with false substitutes, things used to re-mediate its pain. Of course, some of these substitutes are habit forming behaviors that soon create cycles of misery and bondage. Most, if not all, of us have some form of addictive behavior to get us through the bad times or the daily grind of life. Starbucks, anyone?

Some of these pursuits may seem innocent while others are more destructive. I dare say, even our religious activities become a source of self gratification if the positive strokes received while well-doing become part of the motivation for participating in religious activities. It is a silent and unrecognized motivator, but a deception nevertheless. I’m guilty of this wrong-thinking almost by default. I must guard myself from acting out of self rather than acting out of Christ-love.

When we think about it, we can see why it is quite easy to lose one’s focus in the seeking of God. Human needs and empty feelings can hijack good intentions in our pursuit of finding God. Unfortunately, some of these substitutes, addictions and compulsive behaviors mask that which entraps and hinders full expression of what God has to offer us. If we are struggling in our Christian walk, we need to find out why. What is it that keeps us from moving forward or grasping the greater things of God? How can we pursue God with a pure heart?

Christians who begin to listen for God’s quiet voice will find their lives changing to the better spiritual good.

I believe we can have a pure heart. We should move forward, and we should desire to grasp the gifts God has waiting in the wings for us. There are several parts to this but getting quiet with God and listening for His still, small voice is critical to its start. A spiritual awakening starts in the depths of our beings. It is like a tiny seed which begins to sprout when the conditions are right. It is our job to make the conditions fertile and life-receiving.

Besides honesty and openness, we must let the Sonshine in through the Word, prayer, meditation and contemplation on God’s truths, ways, gifts, and Being. We must fully absorb what He gives to us and then let it travel throughout our whole being, in our thoughts, our passions, our pleasures, our desires, and our wants. It takes an effort and a willingness on our part. It also takes God’s supernatural help, guidance, and Presence (Being).

Seeking God in vital relationship is a whole new way of looking at Christianity; Christ-following is supernaturally-enabled-living fueled by Divine essence, grace and love.

Up to this point, I have stressed that the reason for seeking God is that God desires to have a close relationship with us, His children. According to scriptural accounts and through my own personal experiences, I believe God takes pleasure in the sharing of fellowship with His created children. This relationship is a beautiful cycle of love and joy, peace and happiness.

I have encouraged you to start the process of experiencing God through intimacy by opening your hearts and minds to the Triune God; and by giving God access to your inner self as He begins to search and know you. In these lessons, it has been stressed that to do this requires two critical and essential attitudes on your part: First, the need for us to be open with God.  Second, the need for us to be honest with God. Any pretending on our part will limit the flow between God and us.

Many personal barriers corrupt this relationship. These make it difficult to find meaningful relationship with God. As stated in the previous lesson, sin, wrong choices, and areas of entrenched bondage are revealed and become obvious under the lens of God’s microscope as it mirrors truth and shows us our heart and soul. God is able to intentionally reveal our false layers. He exposes some of our lie-based beliefs, which have driven our behaviors and tricked us into maintaining false identities.

In this, there is a common misconception among God followers. These same ‘spiritually’ driven people can suffer under an illusion that their self-worth and spiritual worth is bound to their spiritual performance. The need to achieve in the church, to show off our spiritual worthiness, is rife in some circles. But it has a detrimental effect on true, authentic Christian living. Unfortunately, some of this stems from family patterns where successes in the Church become the measuring stick of a Christian’s view of self-worth and value. This is an area of blindness until God shows us that it is false. It is such a relief once we can see this area in a right way.

On the flip side, those who are less motivated by performance may be caught in a cycle of belief which suggests that their lack of achievement is synonymous with failure. This is a man-made measurement as well. Real worth and value comes from God and the outworking of His God-Life in and through us. Struggles and life experiences may at times inhibit us from seeing the grandeur of what is on the other side, which is the glory of God with His peace that passes all human understanding. There is so much more to be had than duty and doing the right things in a spiritual sense.

Christ came to set us free. He came to give us a victorious life even though we may be confused as to how to access His life in this difficult world in which we live. Christ-followers who have found this richness begin to take on a new persona. They begin to soften. The softening comes from Christ’s life participating in their life and the Holy Spirit’s indwelling. It is a beautiful newness that blesses all in their path (even the creatures and forms of nature). Those hardened by the world may see this as a weakness, but in truth it is a great strength.

It can be a fluid relationship, one that flows with full access and without barriers. The continual life source is The divine Life Source. The key is to get out of the way and let God go to work. He is a loving teacher and a kind Father. Ask Him to show you the way, and then let Him take you by the hand into your next level of consciousness with God. Life becomes especially precious at this point.

Here are a couple of prayers that I have found to be helpful in my spiritual journey.

A prayer of the heart to keep your spiritual life on track.

Dear Father God, 

• Bind my will to the will of God (the Father)
• Bind my mind to the mind of Christ (the Son)
• Bind my emotions to the Holy Spirit (the Spirit) 
• Loose that which is not of God (from my life)

This prayer is based on the Keys to the Kingdom passage in Matthew 16:19. What we bind on earth will be bound in heaven. What we loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. In Scripture we are told to have the mind of Christ, to follow (and live) God’s will for our lives, and to follow the Holy Spirit’s leading. This prayer incorporates all three.

A prayer to contemplate in the quietness.

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.

The Jesus Prayer may be reduced to one word, ‘Jesus.’ Meditate on this one word, repeat it slowly, repeat the phrase slowly. Think on Jesus. This prayer will relax and rejuvenate. It has a healing power because it is based in the Healer. (Luke 18:13)

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In my next lesson we will develop this more fully by looking at the “Come unto Me” passage found in Matthew 11:28-30.