The Painful Effects of Loss, God’s Answer, and His Seed of Love

Almost every negative experience delivers some form of loss. We may not recognize it as such, but it is. These often send us in a tailspin. We wander about trying to find a way to deal with it. There are counselors and advisors in every field who can be accessed. They are helpful. But, in reality, the choice is up to us–how we will react–deal or avoid–relative to the event or loss.

blog dear silent friendThe human will is key to overcoming any situation and bearing any form of loss. We must want to deal with it in a proactive way–even if we know the way out will take years rather than months. Some situations require ongoing support especially when our lives are affected by another person’s struggles as with mental illness, addictions, or dependency needs. There are books and resources we can apprise ourselves of, but they often smack of a band-aid approach. Although they bring understanding and protection, they fail to do the healing and restoring.


Lois at age 20.

Lois Faith Brumbaugh at age 20.

Lois is my sister, and she was my friend. Today I honor her memory with Lois’ Song written by my cousin a decade before her death. The words are apropos for I’m thinking of her. It is September. I always think about her in September because that is when we lost her. I was a little mommy to her when she was a baby. We would play house together, me, the big sis, and she, the little sister. She was born in September. She died in September. I am not very fond of September.

God Calls Us to Love

The way of the cross is a call to love. Christians rarely see it as such, but it is. Love God, love each other, love our neighbor, and love our enemy and those who persecute us…that is a call to love, which removes us from safe places and comfortable enclosures.

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What Adversity Taught Me

We go from one problem to the next problem, one crisis to the next crisis. Just when things are settling down, here comes another one. It’s tough. Problems aren’t my favorite part of life. But, hey, they are teachers. Adversity offers many opportunities to learn. It’s amazing what we will realize after a time of struggle. There are a few reoccurring themes that have held true to the end, that have been my teachers. These are part of what I have learned from my personal journey of loss, pain, discovery, and healing. Feel free make a print copy.


Make Your Life Count (It’s up to you)

Life is quite different now than from the way it used to be. My generation, the baby boomers, pursued the American dream. We believed in a job well-done and being rewarded for the effort. The younger generation is looking at values from a different perspective. Young people today, the millennials, care more about the environment and open acceptance for all people and less about being prosperous and fitting a mold or living a carbon copy life. One generation reacts to the previous generation and then goes about living life from a different angle.

There are some areas that apply to ALL generations. Maybe it’s logic, maybe it’s just common sense, or maybe it’s a reaction, but some things need to be said. In some respects it seems we are forgetting what is wise or prudent and doing what feels right and good for the moment. People are living in the moment. Some are forgetting to prepare for the future. I think people need to slow down and think this thing through. What are the pros and cons, what makes sense in the long run, where will we be ten, twenty, or thirty years from now?